when metamours don't get along

Multiamory is created and produced by Jase Lindgren, Dedeker Winston and me Emily Matlack.

I think that's another one that's so easy to slip into that. Be so mindful. My mom saw my Quip and she was like--, Dedeker:I was home for the holidays and my mom saw my Quip and was like, "What's that?

What's this really about? Anyway, I guess that that letting go at like, for example, right now, I have a metamour who even works in the same industry that I do.

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You could express that that is hurtful to you or even better, maybe express like, "Hey, I'd appreciate if you didn't try to be the go-between and send those messages to me. Just do not fall into the trap of making it a you against them, because that's not going to work out better for you in any way. Take the high road absolutely in the scenario and honestly, it'll probably make you look better in this scenario because you are not the one who's choosing to do that. I was like, "Yes, of course, I get that. I would never, never think that.

Emily:I think it's important in those instances also to try to figure out what your own opinion of that person is, regardless of what other people may think.

Emily:Something that you pointed out, Dedeker, when were doing the research for this episode, you were feverishly looking through our episodes saying, "Well, we must have done this like a year ago or a couple months ago and we totally haven't". It is okay to give yourself some gentleness and some love and some compassion, because I think that it is important that you're able to take ownership of the things that you may have done that maybe contributed to this scenario, because sometimes there is. Dedeker:As of this moment that we're recording, we're on the cusp. That is really important and an interesting thing to bring up because I think that one could easily be like, "Fuck both of you. You have no desire to improve your romantic life, then our podcast might not be for you. Both good and bad thing about communities like that is, gossip travels pretty fast often and gossip in its nature sometimes it's accurate, sometimes it's not. We're going to get to scenario C where you're the person who's in the middle, but is don't let them do it. Interesting. Additionally, some partners might make it a point not to meet metamours until youve been together for at least a few months. The F1 season resumes on April 30 with the Azerbaijan Grand Prix at the Baku City Circuit. Emily:We just wanted to thank Page Turner and their blog, Poly Land for this list because it's a great list. As some of you know, my mom and my parents lost everything in the campfire at that wiped out the entire town of Paradise in November and I realized, "She lost her Quip.

Keeping your problems with your twin a secret will not help.

They're so focused on how much they don't like this other person or how much they think this other person is the cause of these problems, that they don't realize how much they're hurting you in the process of disliking that person.

I went and used our own promo code, tryquip.com/multiamory and I ordered a Quip for my mom for her birthday, which is shortly after Christmas and she got it.

Like the idea of a metamour. Just putting those things in place, sometimes can just solve it right there, sometimes. In this episode, we're going to be giving you tips and tricks for dealing with metamours. Emily:It does happen and it's awesome and then also just talking loudly to my coworkers about the podcasts and then people are like, "What? Maybe try to ask them, "Hey, what's going on here?" If you know that a metamuor is having an issue with you and you don't know how to handle it. Also along with that, Eve Rickert talked about how you should not be blaming, shaming or pressuring each of your partners to figure this thing out just for your sake.

I understand your sentiment behind it but I don't think that's going to be very well received? They not only resent their metamour but their metamours very existence. Let's get into it. The best place to share your thoughts with other listeners is on this episode's discussion thread on our private Facebook or discourse forums. Her Quip is burned up in the fire.". If you are having an issue with a metamour. Can I help you in doing that?".

It's like the toothpaste thing, once you squeeze it out you can't put it back in. Ultimately having those boundaries for yourself of like, "Well, okay, I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm being made to feel this way." . Jase:On this episode of the Multiamory podcast, we're talking about what to do about metamour problems. You can email us at info@multiamory.com. First of all, I will just direct people to just do your homework on NVC, there's plenty of resources out there to talk about non-violent communication, what the different steps are. We love to hear from our listeners and we read every message.

Definitely. Ask yourself that, ask yourself like, is that a thing that's coming up for me right now and I automatically don't like them because I know that they had a messy breakup. ", The thing is that, unfortunately, direct intervention like that can often make the situation more dangerous, but not only for you trying to do the rescuing, but also for your partner who's potentially being abused. That's what I tried to do every time I met my job and people talking and they're like, "Wait, are you that? theo chocolate mission statement / powerfaids conference 2022 / when metamours don't get along. Is it about thoughts I have about my partner?" Now, we've definitely seen a lot of these scenarios where it's like, maybe your metamour is straight-up being hostile toward you or saying hurtful things to you or it's just really not a pleasant interaction or a harmful interaction, if anything. Our episodes are edited by Mauricio del Venera. Its not that we never do

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That's completely understandable because it reflects like this impressive new exciting part of them and that really has nothing to do with you. Or like I mentioned earlier, is it assumptions that I make about what all men or all women are or whomever, all people are like that my partner's dating? If there's special events or special things that you want to do, we can communicate about that so that we're not both competing for making plans on the same days or something."

It's just going to set up for just a much better conversation around what the actual behavior is.

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It is possible for change to occur but it may take time and that's something to be aware of as well, it may be challenging in those moments.

Develop a better understanding of yourself. Dedeker:Well, I'm working in optioning it to the Hallmark Channel now. If they're unique and they're also not.

Donald Trump has been charged with 34 felony counts. You can maybe ask them to go grab coffee with you, to go for a walk, to even have a Skype call, especially if they're in a different part of the country from you. The second one is going to be, if you can, try to talk to your metamour about this, about this issue that might be happening if you know what the issue is, even if you don't.

What's this really about?

It's exploring those, asking those questions, where is this coming from? Dedeker, Emily, can you talk to us about what does that look like, what's that mean?

I mean anyone but specifically in this scenario, yes, that your metamour is gossiping about you, try to take the high road and don't choose to do the same thing to them. Dedeker:Also a lot of practice a good metamour relationships and-. I was like, "Well, funnily enough actually they sponsor our podcast." Or I've got to try to be better at that and compete in every arena, essentially". They will then go, "Well, I'll talk to them about that. They still have to make that decision for themselves at the end of the day. I get to be excited about the fact that he does these things and that he works on these big movies and I don't have to put in the hours involved in working on these movies or whatever it is. Dedeker:What would it be called, like Quip? Yes. The next one here is to not be the go-between, don't try to fix things for them. It is okay to have boundaries around how much you will talk to this person or not talk to this person.

They don't hurt this other person, they hurt me."


This is all just more really helpful exploratory things to help inform the next step or what conversations you may need to have about this person. By NPR's Washington Desk. Instead of the first message or the first contact from you being like, "Hey, what's the deal? Dedeker:Interesting. This happens all the time where people will be like, "My metamour texted me this and I think that it totally shows that they're being really mean and really nasty and really selfish, but what do you all think?". Its making me feel that I dont want to be in a relationship with her involvement. Join.

I think that'll give you the Some of these come from us and some are from Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, where they've also written about some of these things.

Is there something about the tone of their voice or about the way that they speak or the things that they're interested in or the way that they style themselves that I'm just like, "I had an experience with someone like that once that left a bad taste in my mouth and now, I'm automatically projecting that onto this person". norris dam death. Also in these moments, practice non-violent communication. ", I'm never going to be as good at languages as the two of you are but that's okay. Some partners might enjoy meeting

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